How We Became Patty and Stanley

He who would learn to fly one day
must first learn to stand and walk ...
Friedrich Nietzsche

It shouldn't surprise you to learn that Patty and Stanley are not our real names. Those are the names we've given to our kinky identities. By and large, we lead a rather satisfying Ozzie & Harriet existence with an equal share of give and take in the daily rigors and responsiblities. However, when it came time to knock boots between the sheets, we realized that our tendencies skewed more off balance. As Patty succinctly put it, "You're not a controlling type, but you definitely do in the bedroom. I love it -  I've always preferred to get fucked, rather than do the fucking."

For Stanley, that was rather shocking to hear because as the youngest child and only boy with four older sisters, he was proud that he viewed women on equal terms. Until Patty made that comment, he assumed "dominant" could never describe his manner in bed. Upon further reflection, however, Stanley realized that what she said was true. Even though he tried to ensure that their sexual exchanges were largely equal, he indeed dictated the course of action. Needless to say, it was a rather eye-opening realization.

With each of us knowing that our natural tendencies in bed complimented each other's, a focused desire was born to enhance them. By starting small, building incrementally and proceeding deliberately, we eventually reached this place where you find us today on our blog.

We maintain a wonderfully gratifying and balanced relationship, but the love of bdsm we share has become a vital component of it. That is, we like our vanilla with chunks of kink. ;)