Adventures in Kink!

Hello and welcome to Vanilla Adventures in Kink!

I’m your submissive hostess, Patty. When my master/partner/lover/owner Mr. Stanley and I first discovered our proclivities for collars and crops, we had a helluva time finding resources aimed at part-time couples like we are. We've found the bdsm community to be open and supportive, but the majority of information available is produced by and for life-stylers who live submission and domination around the clock.

That ain’t us. We’re what you might call “BDSM lite.” Dominance and submission are roles we enjoy indulging in for various reasons (which we’ll discuss in upcoming posts), but our daily lives are pretty Leave It to Beaver. I love to cook for Mr. Stanley, but more often than not we’re in the kitchen together. I get head as often as I give it, and we each pull our weight with errands and yard work and all that jazz. 

In other words, I’m not a submissive woman. Not by any stretch. In fact, although I like to think I toe the “assertive” line pretty well, my impulses tend toward the aggressive. Things that stress me out? Not knowing what’s coming, not being listened to, not being in control.

Now, I wouldn’t call Mr. Stanley submissive, but he’s certainly not an aggressive guy. He will assert himself when he thinks it germane, but most of the time he honestly doesn’t give much of a shit. He’s typically happy as long as things are flowing smoothly and everyone’s having a good time. What makes his asshole itch? Conflict.

Yet we like a healthy dose of spice with our sex, and in exploring various avenues we stumbled onto bondage and beatings. Our roles have been clear from the beginning – he prefers dishing it out, and I want to receive. Yep, just the opposite of our typical roles: he gets off on controlling me, and I get off on letting him. It’s a release for us, like pushing the reset button. And it’s intimate. And unique. And exciting.

This is a sexual outlet, one of many ways we like to get off. We’ve experimented with longer periods of d/s role-playing, but that didn’t quite hit the spot. There’s never been any question or suggestion that this would supplant our standard vanilla relationship, yet when we ventured into cyber-space to learn more about exactly how you do this stuff, almost everything we found was geared towards full-time slave training and the like.

We suspect we’re not alone. We built this blog to serve as a welcome center and forum for other vanilla couples like us, who like to get freaky and want to talk about it.

Thanks for stopping by – we hope to see you again soon!

Best,

Patty